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When Dreams Come True

Well well well…. its been a while I haven’t talked about anything on my lovely blog… haha… 😀

Well, today its kind of big day, actually no, its kind of bigger day for me. Why? You might be thinking why? Well, answer is simply the title of this article. Yes, when dreams come true… So, you haven’t asked it yet, but I am sure that you would be thinking about dreams or maybe dream which came true. So, let’s see them then.

Life is tough and complicated when you choose path of achieving some goal and making some dreams true. There are lots of problems and obstacles which tackle you, make you slow, even stop you or simply misguide you in wrong direction so that you can’t get your goals. Now, that’s how I am feeling about it. Its been almost 2 years literally and I am waiting for this day. And then finally and atlast the day came today and dreams came true.
So, what you think guys, what would I be feeling? Well, thanks to GOD, my family, my friends, all those who helped me through this directly or indirectly, intentionally or unintentionally, and You guys….. I finally did it.

I would like to thanks to all who supported me directly or indirectly, but I would like to thanks more to those who didn’t help me, because they taught me some very important lessons of life. Thanks.

But, is this end?
Ofcourse not, this isn’t an end. Its the start of very long journey. Life is gift, and gift is precious to everyone. So is to me as well. But, you feel more alive when you make your life better on your own guts by your own hardwork. I have been dreaming all the life for something really really big. I don’t know whether I can get it or not, whether i will get it or not, but I am trying and I will keep trying it until life is over. Sometimes, my friends or my own tell me about my dreams and say that its impossible dream to accomplish. You shouldn’t be supposed to work on impossible dream at all. And, instantly i say:

Dreams aren’t supposed to be classified on some criteria like this is possible and this is not. What i can do about my dreams is to try and work hard even harder when it seems to be impossible. I will die trying rather than keep quite and do nothing thinking that its impossible.

According to my life experience, when you choose path of achieving some dream, then a lot of things will try to stop you for various reasons. I observed that whatever you do, the very first one to question you is your spouse. Next in the list is parent or gaurdian, and finally your surrounding like friends, neighborhood, society etc. Its not like you ignore everyone, and choose path of achieving your goals. If i would do like this, let’s say i get my dreams, then what? I got none to share my success with.

when it comes to achieving goals, then there are two kinds of people. Those who step on others’ shoulders and move up, and those who on their guts and hard work goes up.

Well, i am talking about this dream for 2 years. What really I saw regarding changes in my circle. At very first, people in my circle appreciated me, motivated me, became happy, even said to pray for me. Gradually, I always used to say same thing over and over again, and people instead of motivation, they used to laugh at me and say something like you have been talking about it for a while. Saying is easy and doing is the hard thing. I took them as positive and increased my motivation. Some other time spent, and same people started making fun on me like repeating my dream in teasing style and they were hurting me indirectly and my motivation was decreasing. What I did was again to speak same dream over and over again. I used to speak it because sharing dreams with others was giving me motivation. During all time, some people even tried to lend me help, i wanted to take it but i was in no situation of taking it. You know how risk management works. So, it was almost there, and people even used hursh words this time like you can’t do anything, you are all just talk and nothing more. Literally, this incident really hurt me very deeply. I was so much demotivated and discouraged that i changed my plans and so the dreams. I started to ask people that will you like me when i forget my dreams and do some other thing instead. Haha, now same people are saying stuff like are you crazy, why you are thinking like that, you can’t do that etc. So, i really don’t get the point. When you were following your dreams, people were stopping you directly or indirectly, and when you thought of leaving it, same people asked you and pushed you to your dreams. I really didn’t get the point. What i did was that i stopped speaking about my dreams with others, and was working harder silently. Though it was quite hard and tough one for me to keep silence, but i did it. And, thanks to ALLAH, i did it. Those people are really proud of it, and those are creating roles of how they helped me through this journey, and share my success. I don’t mind it.

When you choose to follow dreams, people will stop you. When you think of stopping it, people will push you towards dreams or pull you out of it saying you are taking right step. And when you finally stop it, they will make fun of you and will say something like see, i told you earlier, or i already knew you haven’t got guts to do it, or share your story as bad example to learn from with others.
I will say only thing. No matter what they say, you just have to move forward and don’t look back. It is hard path even for a very little dream but you just have to make it true. At end, when you achieve your dream, those same people will be proud of you and will share your story with others.

I am glad that i did it. It was my first step to my life. Still a lot of path is left. It was just start. And thanks to all those people, who stopped me along my way, made fun of me, laughed at me, teased me, because they made me realize that how hard whole path is when taking first step is like this. Thanks and a big applause to all of those people.

More thanks to those, who believed me, appreciated me, motivated me, guide me. I am really thankful to all such guys. Hats off to you for listening my senseless dreams and believing on me and showing positive feedback. I can’t forget it whole life. Thanks For reading this.

Wajahat KArim

Remaining Always Motivated – 1

Hello guys!!!!
Well, i didn’t wanted to miss the day without posting, but I did. Actually, what happens is that you get some responsibility and you are passionate about fulfilling it with your full energy and yes you are doing it as well. Whether you are going great or not great, it really doesn’t affect much. What really affects is your environment. Environment? For an environment engineer, this word describes a very detailed concept. For a middle class non-technical person, this word describes the surrounding where they live, they eat, they study and so on. For a rich person, this word describes the compatibility of the way he sees and thinks of the things and the way other people see and think. Rich persons mostly called as Hi-Fi party, or person etc. Because they think environment as a place where you are exhibited as Hi-Fi. For any IT professional or office working person, environment describes the office and the comfort in office while working. Specifically, for a game designer environment is some level of some game. Haha…. Its lot of examples about environment.

Well, the motivated people or motivation professionals like entrepreneurs who made something big out of nothing or small, artists, musicians, scientists, or what you have picture of that particular person who motivates you, shows path, guide you, and then appreciate you at what you have done, are always say something related to follow your passion, follow your heart,  follow your dreams, achieve your goals, and so on. Even, I use to say these phrases to my students to motivate them. I always thought motivation as trigger to what you do, and the most important part of what you do and why you do. I believe that motivation drives man, but what is it really behind motivation. If you got no motivation for anything, you are not going to do it. Then, how we gotta increase motivation. Because no motivation no driving, and you take stop, you do nothing, you get bored until some motivation affect you. It can be anything like you see something and you want to do it now, or someone shows you direction to follow and so on. See, motivation is of two kinds: internal motivation and external motivation. Something that motivates you externally is external motivation. For example, your teacher shows you some goal to achieve, or tells you about some reward to get, or scare you of some punishment in case of failure etc. Now, this motivation is external but this is taken as default when word motivation is taken. I saw lot of people, who preferably waste their time in useless activities instead of doing something useful. When I try to motivate them, what they say is whats advantage of this, what would happen and so on. And, when I tell them the positive and negative points of it, they compare the results with current situation of their life, and then finally they concludes it like, buddy, i don’t think that’s much of important to do or i don’t think that’s worthy of doing it, or see, its not much advantage, i am good in this situation and blah blah blah.

So, you tell me what you would do to motivate them. Point is that motivation is double edge sword, one edge is internal motivation and other edge is external motivation. We can’t hold the sword without being affected by other edge. One edge will be used to cut or get your goal achieved, but other edge will cut your own hand instead. So, to get your dreams and follow your passion, you must be brave enough to bear both edges. At inspiration videos, lectures, books, examples, we get only is external motivation not internal. And when I say motivation drives man is about internal motivation. The people who doesn’t get motivated as I wrote earlier in this article, these people are not internally motivated.

Question arises is how you get internally motivated. Well, its not an easy task I would say. Its like fighting your inner YOU and winning it. We get internally motivated from birth by our parents, siblings, friends, relationships, culture, environment, most important our lifw experience. For example, son of taxi driver always see taxi as income source and gets motivated to it when he wants income. This is how dreams in our heart arises.

So, if internal motivation comes from birth and life experience, then why and how it ends or fades from our life? And why external motivation doesn’t affect us? Well, answer is simple. The situation. That’s the word. The environment we live and see in our life creates different situations and we face those situations by our wisdom and create life experience for others to learn from. Now, when your environment is not good enough to morivate you internally, then you can’t get your goals. In these type of situations, what I do is to try to not decrease my motivation by keeping regular activities on. Its very hard actually to fight with environment and keeping yourself unchanged. Its like swimming in water without getting wet. You will get wet by water, but point that decides your measure of motivation is how much wet you become. Ofcourse, the more deep you go in water will make you more wet. That means more you mingle in the environment, the more you will be affected by it and so will be your motivation. If you know that your environment is not good or much internally motivational, then what you should do is try to avoid it as much as possible and try to change it as soon as possible. Because if you mingle in these environments, you will become like this. Your thinking will be changed, you will be lost, and you will die from inside. And, then hardly any external motivation will affect you until you make your internal motivation again high.

In a nutshell, try to stay away from bad friends, the people who always take things pessimistically, or the environment where you know you can’t do your things or you can’t follow your dreams or passion.

But, everyone always faces something which he doesn’t want to face. And that makes his life experience and unique among others. But, due to environmental change and affected internal motivation, a less number of persons survive from these situations and win thier goal. In the next article, I will write about how I fought with my internal motivation and environment,  and what methods I learned to fight it, and how I changed my environment, and how I keep my motivation high and getting my dreams true.

Thanks for reading it….

Wajahat Karim

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